How to keep a relationship last?

Scientist found out that romantic love involves chemical changes in the brain that last 12-18 months. After that, you and your partner are on your own. Love can absolutely last for a life time as desired to be maintained. Meaning, it’s both your choice.

Entering a relationship is not simple. Keeping it is a different story and it’s much harder. It may be a challenging part but it is very worthwhile and fulfilling. You know why? You don’t do it alone. The good thing about entering in a relationship is that there is someone you can work with. And the best part is it is someone you love.

Here are some guidelines on how to make a relationship last:

·               ·         Choose your partner carefully.

Too many people settle for less and then they try to get better upon it, which is often just too much work and bitterness in the long run. No one's perfect, but choose the BEST partner who sees the relationship going forward in the same direction.

•          Value and Love your Partner.

If your partner does something special for you, thank him/her. Value his effort. Be grateful on whatever effort he makes that made you smile, it till help you maintain the relationship. There are those who are willing to do crazy efforts just to see you happy and you are lucky if you have that kind of person.

     

•    Always say “I LOVE YOU.”

These simple words mean a lot to them. It’s a one way of reminding them they are still being valued and loved. Say “I love you,” especially when you mean it (and you should). These three words can put a smile in there face, brighten up a day and make your partner feel better.

•        Be understanding and patient.

Learn to listen to he/she says without judgment. Your partner might have different opinion than you and tat is normal. You can’t make your partner accept your opinion if he/she does not want to. Be interested and sympathetic because you should care about your partner concerns. And even when you are away from each other, you have to be updated. It doesn't have to be a long talk always, just know what’s happening in them.

•   Trust.

Never ever broke these! Building trust between you and your partner is essential in making the relationship to work and last. You have to be honest with your partner about your intention and actions. Don’t try to hide things because remember that the “Truth will always comes out”. It is better to tell him/her with the truth than to comfort them with your lies.

•    Spend time together but don’t get too attached.

Couples must spend time together alone at least twice a week. Time is the most special element in one’s life. We all have 24 hours every single day. Keep in touch but not all the times. You are one. You are partners. But your relationship is not totally your life unless you are already married. You have a life together but it should not stop you from living a life of your own. Go out and bond with your friends. Visit your family. Experience and enjoy life without him sometimes. It WILL help both you and your relationship. Besides, have you ever heard the word “suffocating?” Many relationships die of that.

•         Keep Laughing

Relationships face challenges and a shared sense of humor helps you deal with life when it gets difficult. Laughing can strengthen the relationship. It reminds both of you that there is more to life than the trials and problems you face as it helps you both forget all the troubles you faced.

•       Don’t change your partner easily.

This one might be tough. Many couples try to change something about their partner that they don’t like which could harm the relationship. If you don’t like something about your partner, tell him/her about your concerns, but don’t force him/her to do something they don’t want. Try at least talk to them and it is up to them to take your advice or not, because if a person really want to change. They will change not because you want it but because you are the reason why he/she wants to change.

•     When both commit mistakes, Apologize.

Shit happens. Everybody makes mistakes. Your heart should be bigger than your ego. Pride will get your relationship nowhere.  Apologize in a better way. When your partner does and he or she apologizes, don’t put all the blame on him/her instead analyze the situation and work things out in a positive way.

         ·            Don’t bottle things up, Work it out.

One of the best pieces of love advice that I can give to those who are confused and giving up is next in line is that, “You don’t quit just because you’re not happy at the moment. The whole point of being in a relationship is that you, at the very least, try to work it out.” That’s why it is a “relationship.” It’s a relationship between two people.  Every couple has their ups and downs. And when you encounter the down-side of it, you don’t give up just like that. You talk. You listen. You weigh things over. You work it out.

    

    Every relationship has its ups and downs. Love is a feeling that comes and goes depending on how you treat each other and solve your problems. These guidelines will help you work out relationships and build a strong foundation with your partner, work together through these hard times then your relationship will become stronger than ever. That's important.

Love will last, If only both sides know how to commit. J